7 Things a Son Needs from His Father - All Pro Dad

There's nothing like the father-son relationship. As a boy grows up, there will be many people who influence him and his development into adulthood. ✕ Articles About GetInvolved Subscribe SchoolChapters NFLSpokesmen Store Parenting Marriage Activities Balance DONATE Menu☰ Menu☰ Home»Articles»Parenting»Sons»7ThingsaSonNeedsfromHisFather 7ThingsaSonNeedsfromHisFather AllProDad Sons Shareonfacebook Shareontwitter Shareonprint Shareonemail WhenIwaselevenmyfamilymovedtoanewcityandIhatedit.Ididn’tlikeournewhouse,mynewschool,orthekidsinournewneighborhood.EverydayIwenttoschoolIjustwantedtoleaveandflybacktomyoldtown.SoIusedtofakelikeIwassicksoI’dbesenthome.Afterseveraldaysofthismydadcametoschoolandmetmeinthenurse’soffice.Hetalkedabouthowheknewitwashard,butaskedmetogiveitatry.IfeltlikeIwasnolongeraloneinthestruggle.HispresencewasallIneededtochangemyattitude. There’snothinglikethefather-sonrelationship.Asaboygrowsup,therewillbemanypeoplewhoinfluencehimandhisdevelopmentintoadulthood.Asafather,youare,andshouldbe,hismostimportantrolemodel.Heneedsyou.Tomorrowwe’llcoverthe7thingsadaughterneedsfromherdad.However,todayhereare7thingsasonneedsfromhisfather. 1.Heneedsyoutolovehismother. Whenyouloveyourwife,orthemotherofyourson,youareshowinghimhowtotreathismother,hissisters,andallthewomenhe’llmeetinhislife.Thiswillsetthefoundationfortherelationshipshewillhavelaterinhislife.Ifyouaredivorcedandtherelationshipisdifficult,dowhatyoucantotreathismotherwithrespect. 2.Heneedstoseeyoufail,notjustsucceed. Thebestteacherisfailure.Thebesttypeoffailuretolearnfromissomeoneelse’s.Thebestteacherisfailure.Thebesttypeoffailuretolearnfromissomeoneelse’s.Whenyoursonseesyoufail,andhandlethefailurewell,heseesthatitisokaytomakemistakesandthatmistakescanbegreatteachers.Aboywhoisnotafraidofmakingmistakeswillgrowintoamanpositionedtoacceptandconquergreatchallenges. 3.Heneedsyourservantleadership. Youmayormaynotbethebossatwork.Youmayormaynotbethepastororministeratchurch.Youmayormaynotbealeaderinyourcommunity.Butyouaretheleaderofyourfamily.Yoursonneedstoseeleadershipinyourhome.Heneedstoseeyouleadingbyserving.Whenheseesyouleadingbyserving,hewillbetterunderstandleadershipandbeabletomoreeffectivelyleadversusfollowhispeers.Ashegrows,hewillbetterleadhisfamily,leadatwork,leadatchurch,andleadinhiscommunity. 4.Heneedsyouto bepresent. Asyoufulfillallthedifferentrolesyouhave,youmaybepulledinmultipledirections.Heneedsyoutobepresentinhiseducation,inhissociallife,inallareasofhislife.Someareasarenotintendedformomonly,orforhisfriendsonly.Yourpresenceinallareaswillgivehimthesupportheneeds. 5.Heneedsyourloveregardlessofhischoices. YoumaybethebiggestsportsjunkienotlivinginBristol,CT(whereESPNheadquartersarelocated).Andyoursonmaynotbeabletokickaballifyouplaceditonhistoe,norcarethathecan’t.Nomatterwhatchoicesyoursonmakes,heneedsyoutolovehimeveniftheyare differentthanyours.Evenwhentheyarewrongchoices.Yourloveandguidancewillopenthedoortotrustandacceptancethatbuildyourrelationship.Anditwillbuildhisself-esteem. 6.Heneedsyoutoaffirmhim. “Iloveyou,son.”“I’mproudofyou,son.”“Youareamazing,son.”“Iknowyoucandoit,son.”“Thatwasanamazingplayyoumade!”“Youareahardworker.”“Youmessedup,butIknowyou’llbounceback.”Yoursonneedsyourencouragement.Heneedsto hearthewords thatlethimknowyoulovehavinghimasason. 7.Heneedsyoutodisciplinehiminlove. Whenyoudisciplineyourson,yousetboundariesandexpectations.Heisgoingtomakemistakesjustlikeyoudidasakidandjustlikeyoudonow.Buthealsoneedstoknowthathisactionshaveconsequences.Disciplininghiminlovewillteachhimtoconsidertheconsequenceshisactionswillhave.Thiswillpreparehimtothinkandevaluatethechoiceshemakesbothnowandinthefuture. HuddleUpQuestionHuddleupwithyoursonandask,“Whatisyourfavoritefather/sonactivity?” LEAVEACOMMENT Facebook Twitter Print Email MoreResourcesRaisingYourSontoBeaLeader,NotaFollowerReadMore»TeachingYourSonHowtoBecomeaManReadMore»10WaystoRaiseConfidentKidsReadMore»   PrevPreviousRulesforDadsofDaughters NextFamilyVacationMovieMustHavesChampionshipRoundNext QUICKLINKS Contributors Partners BookList Career FAQ Contact PressRoom FosteringandAdoption 5509W.GrayStreet,Suite100Tampa,FL33609(813)222-8300 Facebook Twitter YouTube Instagram Search EMAILSIGNUP Subscribe Copyright©2021FamilyFirst,INC.AllRightsReserved.SiteDesignbyDesignExtensions PrivacyPolicy|TermsofUse