Toxic People: 12 Things They Do and How to Deal with Them

Toxic people have a way of sending out the vibe that you owe them something. They also have a way of taking from you or doing something that hurts you, then ... DealingWithDifficultPeople byKarenYoung 10,300,348 VIEWS ToxicPeople:12ThingsTheyDoandHowtoDealwithThem Wehaveallhadtoxicpeopledustuswiththeirpoison.Sometimesit’smorelikea drenching. Difficultpeoplearedrawntothereasonableonesandallofushavelikely had(orhave)atleastonepersoninourliveswhohaveusbendingaroundourselveslikebarbedwire inendlessattemptstopleasethem–onlytoneverreallygetthere. Theirdamageliesintheirsubtletyandthewaytheycanengenderthatclassicresponse,‘It’snotthem,it’sme.’Theycanhaveyouquestioningyour‘over-reactiveness’,your‘oversensitivity’,your‘tendencytomisinterpret’. Ifyou’retheonewho’scontinuallyhurt,ortheonewhoisconstantly adjustingyourownbehaviourtoavoidbeinghurt,thenchancesarethatit’snotyouandit’sverymuchthem. Beingabletospottheirharmfulbehaviouristhefirststeptominimisingtheirimpact.Youmightnotbeabletochangewhattheydo,butyoucanchangewhatyoudowithit,andanyideathattoxicsomebodyinyourlife mighthavethattheycangetawaywithit. Thereareplentyofthingstoxicpeopledotomanipulatepeopleandsituationstotheiradvantage.Hereare12ofthem.Knowingthemwillhelpyoutoavoidfallingundertheinfluence: They’llkeepyouguessing aboutwhichversionofthemyou’regetting. They’llbecompletelylovelyonedayandthenextyou’llbewonderingwhatyou’vedonetoupsetthem.Thereoftenisn’tanythingobviousthatwill explainthechangeofattitude–youjustknowsomethingisn’tright.Theymightbeprickly,sad,coldorcrankyandwhenyouaskifthere’ssomethingwrong,theanswerwilllikelybe‘nothing’–butthey’llgiveyoujustenough toletyouknowthatthere’ssomething.The‘justenough’mightbeaheavingsigh,araisedeyebrow,acoldshoulder.Whenthishappens,youmightfindyourselfmakingexcusesforthemordoingeverythingyoucantomakethemhappy.Seewhyitworksforthem? Stoptryingtopleasethem.Toxicpeoplefiguredoutalongtimeagothatdecentpeoplewillgotoextraordinarylengthstokeepthepeopletheycareabouthappy.Ifyourattemptstopleasearen’tworkingoraren’t lastingforverylong,maybeit’stimetostop.Walkawayandcomebackwhenthemoodhasshifted.Youarenotresponsibleforanybodyelse’sfeelings.Ifyouhavedonesomethingunknowinglytohurtsomebody,ask,talkaboutitandifneedbe,apologise.Atanyrate,youshouldn’thavetoguess. They’llmanipulate. Ifyoufeelasthoughyou’retheonlyonecontributingtotherelationship,you’reprobablyright.Toxicpeoplehaveawayofsendingoutthevibethatyouowethemsomething.Theyalsohaveawayoftakingfromyouordoingsomethingthathurtsyou,thenmaintainingtheyweredoingitallforyou.Thisisparticularlycommoninworkplacesorrelationshipswherethebalanceofpowerisout.‘I’veleftthatsixmonths’worthoffilingforyou.Ithoughtyou’dappreciatetheexperienceandtheopportunitytolearnyourwayaroundthefilingcabinets.’Or,‘I’mhavingadinnerparty.Whydon’tyoubringdinner.For10.It’llgiveyouachancetoshowoffthosekitchenskills.K?’ Youdon’toweanybodyanything.Ifitdoesn’tfeellikeafavour,it’snot. Theywon’towntheirfeelings. Ratherthanowningtheirownfeelings,they’llactasthoughthefeelingsareyours.It’scalledprojection,asinprojectingtheirfeelingsandthoughtsontoyou.Forexample,someonewhoisangrybutwon’ttakeresponsibilityforitmightaccuseyouofbeingangrywiththem.Itmightbeassubtleas,‘Areyouokaywithme?’orabitmorepointed,‘Whyareyouangryatme,’or,‘You’vebeeninabadmoodallday.’ You’llfindyourselfjustifyinganddefendingandoftenthiswillgoaroundincircles–becauseit’snotaboutyou.Bereallyclearonwhat’syoursandwhat’stheirs.Ifyoufeelasthoughyou’redefendingyourselftoomanytimesagainstaccusationsorquestionsthatdon’tfit,youmightbebeingprojectedonto. Youdon’thavetoexplain,justifyordefendyourselfordealwithamisfiredaccusation.Rememberthat. They’llmakeyouproveyourselftothem. They’llregularlyputyouinapositionwhereyouhavetochoosebetweenthemandsomethingelse–andyou’llalwaysfeelobligedtochoosethem.Toxicpeoplewillwaituntilyouhaveacommitment,thenthey’llunfoldthedrama. ‘Ifyoureallycaredaboutmeyou’dskipyourexerciseclassandspendtimewithme.’ Theproblemwiththisisthatenoughwillneverbeenough.Fewthingsarefatal–unlessit’slifeordeath,chancesareitcanwait. [irpposts=”1195″name=”ToxicPeople:16Practical,PowerfulWaystoDealWithThem”] Theyneverapologise.  They’llliebeforetheyeverapologise,sothere’snopointarguing.They’lltwistthestory,changethewayithappenedandretellitsoconvincinglythatthey’llbelievetheirownnonsense. Peopledon’thavetoapologisetobewrong.Andyoudon’tneedanapologytomoveforward.Justmoveforward–withoutthem.Don’tsurrenderyourtruthbutdon’tkeeptheargumentgoing.There’sjustnopoint.Somepeoplewanttoberightmorethantheywanttobehappyandyouhavebetterthingstodothantoprovide fodderfor theright-fighters. They’llbethereinacrisisbutthey’llneverevershareyourjoy. They’llfindreasonsyourgoodnewsisn’tgreatnews.Theclassics:Aboutapromotion–‘Themoneyisn’tthatgreatfortheamountofworkyou’llbedoing.’Aboutaholidayatthebeach–‘Wellit’sgoingtobeveryhot.Areyousureyouwanttogo?’AboutbeingmadeQueenoftheUniverse–‘WelltheUniverseisn’tthatbigyouknowandI’mprettysureyouwon’tgetteabreaks.’Gettheidea?Don’tletthemdampenyouor shrinkyoudowntotheirsize.Youdon’tneedtheirapprovalanyway–oranyoneelse’sforthatmatter. They’llleaveaconversationunfinished–andthenthey’llgooffline. Theywon’tpickuptheirphone.Theywon’tanswertextsoremails.Andinbetweenroundsoftheirvoicemailmessage,youmightfindyourself playingtheconversationorargumentoverandoverinyourhead,guessingaboutthestatusoftherelationship,wonderingwhatyou’vedonetoupsetthem,orwhetherthey’redead,aliveorjustignoringyou–whichcansometimesallfeelthesame.Peoplewhocareaboutyouwon’tletyougoonfeelingrubbishwithoutattemptingtosortitout.Thatdoesn’tmeanyou’llsortitoutofcourse,butatleastthey’lltry.Takeitasasignoftheirinvestmentintherelationshipiftheyleaveyou‘outthere’forlengthysessions. They’llusenon-toxicwordswithatoxictone. Themessagemightbeinnocentenoughbutthetoneconveyssomuchmore.Somethinglike,‘Whatdidyoudotoday?’canmeandifferentthingsdependingonthewayit’ssaid.Itcouldmeananythingfrom‘SoIbetyoudidnothing–asusual,’to‘I’msureyourdaywasbetterthanmine.Minewasawful.Justawful.Andyoudidn’tevennoticeenoughtoask.’Whenyouquestionthetone,they’llcomebackwith,‘AllIsaidwaswhatdidyoudotoday,’whichistrue,kindof,notreally. They’llbringirrelevantdetailintoaconversation. Whenyou’retryingtoresolvesomethingimportanttoyou,toxicpeoplewillbringinirrelevantdetailfromfiveargumentsago.Theproblemwiththisisthatbeforeyouknowit,you’rearguingaboutsomethingyoudid sixmonthsago,stilldefendingyourself,ratherthandealingwiththeissueathand.Somehow,itjustalwaysseemstoendupaboutwhatyou’vedonetothem. They’llmakeitaboutthewayyou’retalking,ratherthanwhatyou’retalkingabout. Youmightbetryingtoresolveanissueorgetclarificationandbeforeyouknowit,theconversation/argumenthasmovedawayfromtheissuethatwasimportanttoyouandontothemannerinwhichyou talkedaboutit –whetherthereisanyissuewithyourmannerornot.You’llfindyourselfdefendingyourtone,yourgestures,yourchoiceofwordsorthewayyourbellymoveswhenyoubreathe–itdoesn’tevenneedtomakesense.Meanwhile,yourinitialneediswellgoneonthepileofunfinishedconversationsthatseemstogrowbiggerbytheday. [irpposts=”1762″name=”WhenSomeoneYouLoveisToxic:HowtoLetGoofToxicPeople,WithoutGuilt”] Theyexaggerate. ‘Youalways…’‘Younever…’It’shardtodefendyourselfagainstthisformofmanipulation.Toxicpeoplehaveawayofdrawingontheonetimeyoudidn’tortheonetimeyoudidasevidenceofyourshortcomings.Don’tbuyintotheargument.Youwon’twin.Andyoudon’tneedto. Theyarejudgemental. Weallgetitwrongsometimesbuttoxicpeoplewillmakesureyouknowit.They’lljudgeyouandtakeaswipeatyourself-esteemsuggestingthatyou’relessthanbecauseyoumadeamistake.We’reallallowedtogetitwrongnowandthen,butunlesswe’vedonesomethingthataffectsthemnobodyhastherighttostandinjudgement. Knowingthefavouritego-to’sfortoxicpeoplewill sharpenyourradar,makingthemanipulationseasiertospotandeasiertoname.Moreimportantly,ifyouknowthecharacteristicsignsofatoxicperson,you’llhaveabetterchanceofcatchingyourselfbeforeyoutieyourselfindoubleknotstryingtopleasethem. Somepeoplecan’tbepleasedandsomepeoplewon’tbegoodforyou–andmanytimesthatwillhavenothingtodowithyou.Youcanalwayssaynotounnecessarycrazy.Beconfidentandownyourownfaults,yourquirksandthethingsthatmakeyoushine.Youdon’tneedanyone’sapprovalbutrememberifsomeoneisworkinghardtomanipulate,it’sprobablybecausetheyneedyours.Youdon’talwayshavetogiveitbutifyoudo,don’tletthecostbetoohigh. 2,229Comments Getthestrengthnowwhileyoustillhaveastomachleft.Itshard,buttherearemanymorepeopleouttheretoenjoyandlaughwithwhowillnotpoisonyourpersonalityetrueTUyou. Reply Ihavebeenthesameway,butnowI’vehadenough.Soit’stimetothinkofyourself.Justdoitandyourgutandyuwillfeelbetter,plusyou’llstarttogetrespect. Reply WOW!!!!IwishedIhadcomeacrossthis29yearsago.Iwouldhaveruntheotherdirection.Mywifeisagoodperson,yetthisarticledescribeshertoatee..WehadanissuetodaythatshedroppedsomethingoutsideandIranouttohelpherwithit.Inoticedshewasabrasive,andcurtwithherresponses.Iaskedherisshewasupsetandsheaccusedmeoflaughingatherfrominsidethehouse…(IhadnoideatherewasaproblemuntilIlookedoutthewindowandsawhercollectingitemsfromthebagthatspilledontheground,andsoIranouttohelp).Anyhow,thishasbeenourlifestorysincewemet.Ihadverylowselfesteemandshewasreal,affectionate,loving,willingtoshareineverythingwhenIfirstmether.Sincethenithasprogressivelygottenworse.Hersisterhasgonethrough2divorcesandhercurrentrelationshipisheadingthatwaynow.MywifeandIhavealwaysworkedthingsout,butnowIseehowsimilarherandhersisterare.Herdadhasalwaysbeenanenablertohersistersissuesbyalwayssteppingintoassistwhenshecomplainsaboutherhusband(andex-husbands).IambeingmedicallyreleasedformthemilitaryandsoIhavelivedwithherthislongandwhenthegooddaysaregood,theyareverygood.IjustfeellatelylikeIamamedievalservantratherthanherpartner,alwayswalkingoneggshellsandtryingnottosetheroff.TimeforasitdownandletherknowhowIhavebeenfeelingallthistime.Notsurehowitwillworkout,butIamdonebeingadoormat!! Reply Ihavethesameissuesfeelinglikeit’salwaysmyfaulttryingtofigureoutwhatIdidtothemhavingfalseaccusationsorevenssarcastic‘thanxforcomingwithus’andthepettinesscuzyoudidsomethingtheydidn’tlikeandtheythinkit’stheritewaywhatdoIdo?Andthealwayssayingbadthingsaboutyoutooothersjustsoyournotlikedorsootherswouldhateyou Reply Ihaveaneighborwhofriendedmeanditbecameoverwhelming.IamsomeonewhoishelpingbynatureandIthinkshethoughtshehitthejackpot.Usingmypoolanytimeshewanted,callingmemultipletimesaday,gettingmetodriveherandherfamilyeverywhere,helpwithstuffaroundherhouse,helpingherkidswithprojectsandbasicallycallingmeforanythingshedidn’twanttodo.ThencamethedayIaskedtohaveafewtreebranchestrimmedandallhellbrokeloose.Phoningmeandcallingmenames,whenIhungupshepostedstuffonFBaboutme,contactingpeopleonmyfriendslist,standingoutsideholleringandtrashingmetootherneighbors,slowingdownwhendrivingbymyhouse.Selfishpeoplelosetheirmindswhenyouturnoffthegivingtapandstopbeingmanipulated. Reply Iamcurrentlytryingtobreakawayfroma10yrtoxicrelationship.Ithasbeenoffandon2yrsnow.Ilovehimtodeathbutheliterallydoeseverythingyoulisted.Icatchitbuthestillfindsawaytogetundermyskin.Hecanfakeitforabout2weekstops. OnedayIwillhavethestrengthtonevercontacthimagain. Reply Hieveryone, ItsbeenthreeyearsIhavebeeninarelationship.Myboyfriendwassolovingandtextedmeanddatedwithmeforoneyear.Sincelastoneyear,hehasbeensobusyasheisamarketingguy.Hehardlysendonewordmsganddoesnomeaningfulconversation.Nophonecalls.Whenitoldhim,hesaysiamneedy.Andbecuaseofthatheisstonewallingme.Heisalwaysonlineonhisofficialwhatsapp.Hesayshehastomakesomanycallstohisclientsandhasnotime.Butevenafterhisofficehourshedonotcallmenormaketimeforme.Heisalwaysbusy Reply I’vebeenfor28yearswithmyhusband,heputmedownallthetime,hesaysthatapieceofshitisworthmorethanme,Idon’trememberthelasttimewehadsex Reply MynameisSandraandIhavereadallthisI’mgoingthroughitnow..butafterreadingthisIfeelbetter..itstimeformetomoveon Reply Imsoconfusedanyadvicewouldbegratefullyrecieved. Icomefromanabusivehome,at16yearsoldwentintoanabusive16yearrelationshipwhichIended.Ihaveanewpartnerwhohasbeenwithmefor3years,atfirsthewascharming,charismaticetc.Nownotsomuch,whenItrytotellhimthingsheisdoinghebringsupmypastsayingthatIlikeplayingthevictimasthere’sarepeatingpattern,firstmyparentsthenmyexandnowitshim?Thatleavesmetotallyconfusedandreallyhurt.HetoldmethatifIlost2/3ofmyweighthewouldfallinlovewithme,after3yearsIthinkthatsanawfulthingtosay,thenheputitdowntomeunderstandingitwronglyandnotbeingmotivatedenough.WhenIsaidtohimimagineifIsaidthattoyou,hetoldmeheisntcomingontomylevel,Ishouldbegoingontohis.WheneverItellhimthingsthatshappeningwhetheritbemydisabilityorpasteventshecommentshowimnottheonlyoneandthathewentthroughtheBalkanswarandhelosthisparentsat9yearsold.Butontheotherhandhetellsmeabouthismotherwhenhewasatuniversitysoimleftevenmoreconfused! ImeanIdidtellhimthingsaboutmypastbecauseIthoughtitwastherightthingtodo,IdontsitandwhineaboutitasIjustliketogetonwithmylife,butheusesitagainstme.IfindithardtotellhimexactlymyissuessoIsenthiminformationlinksonGoogle,whenwespeakhedownplaysitsaysmygoogledillnesseslikeijustgoogledthemanddecidedtochoosethem.HehasbroughtmeeverythingIcoulddreamofbutthenhesaysimanungratefulperson.Ifeellikeitsacatch22situation.Isitme,amIwhathesaysandIcantseeit,amIprojectingmypasteventsontohimtofitthemouldorishejustmessingwithmymind? Reply Ihavebeenwithmyboyfriend9yrsandwebothadaughterwhois8yearold.FromthetimeImethimalwayscheating.Specificallyatwork.Nightshiftandworkatnursinghome.Eachplacehegoesnotonewomanat3womenhewillbesleepingwiththem. Reply Itshardtoleavebutyoushouldleavehim.Onceacheater,alwaysacheater.Menlikehimthinktheyareentitledtocheatandyouwillforgiveittimeaftertime.Justleavehim.Iknowithurtsbut1)youwillteachhimalessonhewon’tforget2)youwillregainyourselfrespect. Manypeoplethinktheyneedtostayforthekidsbutthekidsdon’tlikeseeingtheirparentsmiserable.KidsnoticeEVERYTHINGeveryday–theyreallydo.Ifyouteachyourkidsthathusbandscheatandwivesforgive,you’resettingthemupforalifetimeofmiseryandfailurebecausetheydon’thavegoodethics.Kidslearnbyexample.Standupforyourselfandbestrong.Thatteachesyourdaughtersthatwomencanbestrongandindependentandteachesyoursonstorespectwomenbecausewedon’tneedmentobehappyandraiseourkids.Itshardtoraisekidsalonebutitcanbedoneanditsbetterthanbeingmiserablelivingwithaliarandcheat.Hewon’tchangeunlesshewantstoandhewon’twanttounlessyouhurthim.Therearebettermenouttherewhodon’tcheatandyoucanfindone.Believeme,I’vebeenthere. Reply whyareyoustillwithhim? Reply Whyareuwithhim.What’sthepurpose.Hedoeswhathewantsandhasyouforadoormat(convenient).Diseasesoutherebutyetyousayitsononmeaningless.Sowhatareyouasking?Howtomakehimstop?Onlyucanbywalkingout!! Reply Helpme.HowdoIfindthestrengthtoleaveatoxicpersonwhoILOVEbutkeepsmakingmistakesanddisrespectingourtrustandrelationshipbydrinking.He’sbringingmedownwithhimbuthe’smanipulative,hemakesmethinkIowehimforthepast…there’ssomuchmore.IobviouslyknowwhattodobutI’mscared.Itwillbeahugefightwhenheleaves,hesayssomenastythingswhenhe’sindefensivemode.Desperateforsomeadvise… Reply I’vebeeninatoxicfriendshipforclosetotwoyearsnow.I’vebeentryingtounderstandhowitallstartedandfromthisarticle,I’vediscoveredit’sjealousy.Itallstartedwhenshestartedcomparingherlifetomine.Anditallwentdownhillfromthere.I’vebeenthroughsomuchhurtandemotionalstress.Iamputtinganendtoitrealsoon,byhookorcrook.Andfunnythingis,shehasbeenonherbestbehavioreversinceshediscoveredI’mtryingtoseparate.Thisjustshowsherattitudehasbeenintentionalallalong.IhopeI’mabletobefinallyfreeofher.IwishtherewasatherapistIcouldtalkto. Reply Ihadasimilarfriend–narcissisticpersonalitydisorder(undiagnosed).Iknewtherewassomethingwrongwithherbutittookmealongtimetoputitalltogether.Wehadbeenfriendsforover20years,manyofthemverybadandtheotherswerebadoffandon.Shelostallherfriendsonebyoneastheyrealizedshewastoxic.Youwillbesomuchhappierwhenyouendyourfriendshipandputdistancebetweenyouandyourfriend.Peoplelikethatarenotnormalandwon’tchangeforthebetter.Ifanything,theyjustgetworse.Saveyourselfwhileyoucan.Moveon–thereareotherpeopleouttherelookingforgoodfriendswhoarenottoxic.You’llfindsomeofthem–havefaiththatthingswillworkout. Reply howdoIgetthroughmybestfriendleavingmebecauseofsometoxicfakeplasticgirlandherbestfriendwhojusthatesmeandtellsliesaboutme?Ican’tdothisanymore.I’mthinkungaboutendingit.Mylife.InevergetanythingIwant(orneed)andIknowitsoundslikei’mbeingdramatic.Ijustcan’tdothisanymore.Ineverdidanythingtodeservethis.PLEASEHELP Reply PleasePleaseDON’Tconsiderendingyourlife.Lifechangesconstantlyandtheresaverygoodpossibilityyoucanchangethingsifyouhanginthereandchangeyourthinking.Ourmindsandattitudeareverypowerful.Pleasedothis: 1)Prayforgoodthingstocomeyourway.2).Envisionthegoodthingsyouwantandhavefaiththattheywillcome.I’mnottalkingaboutreligionorspirituality.Ourmindsandimaginationsarepowerful.Whatwebelievewillhappenwillactuallyhappen.Fillyourselfwithpositiveandhappyideas.Ialsohighlyrecommendyoulearnsomeformofmeditation.Easternformsofmeditationhavebeenhelpingpeopleforeons.Pleasedon’tgiveup.Therearepeopleinyourlifewholoveyou. Reply I’mprayingforyou.Nooneisworthendingyourlife.Iwasthebreakupqueeninmytwenties.Yesitwassad&depressingbutnowI’mmarried27years.Justkeepgoing.That’swhatlifeis.Goodthings,badthings&wekeepgoinggettingstronger&betteralongtheway.I’msogratefulforallmybreakupsbecauseitmademestrongertohandleallthegood&badinthelast27years.Rememberyouarenotalone.Youarestrong! Reply Hi,ifyourintrouble,gobacktoyourparentsoracloserelative.Nevernevertakeyourlife.Thefallouttoothersisextreme. Reply Seeinghowmanypostsonthisshowswe’renotalone-I’vebeeninthemosttoxicrelationshipwithawell-versednarcissist.I’m32,shesaboutsthesameage,literallycanneverbelieveawordshe’ssayingregardingherwherabouts!it’slikealwayssomeweirdmisleadingstory-alwaysanswersthephoneandhastowalkawayfromppl,wouldtakeawhiletorespond,saidshelivesinadifferentplacenow,comesbacktovisitonweekends,thethingis,herWORDS,lovebombs,tell’smehowmuchshewantsmeinherlife,wantstomakeitwork,fixherself,allofthat,butasweallknow-actionsalwaysspeaklouder!I’mfinallycomingtogripswiththefactIwasanothersourceofsupplyforher-I’vebeendiscarded,Iwasused.Itwasonlyaboutsexwithher-gettingherneedsmet.Ithinkshe’sbeenlivingadoublelife,runningaroundwithwhoknowshowmanyothermen..shehasalotofaddictivetraits,well,Ithinkshe’sanaddict-Iknowshedoesthingslikesmokes,doesDMT,prescribedtoadderalforyears,andIhavenocluewhatkindofothersubstancessheuses.Butherpersonalityissohotandcold-Ifeelimmenseabondmentnow,causeshealwaysismakingitouttobemyfault.LikeI’muntrusting,don’tbeleiveher,controlling-whenmeanwhile,soomanyofherstoriesjustdontaddup..ifshecaredformethewayshesaidshedid-shewouldbespendinghertimewithme,notsomewildrandomstoryandrunaroundofwhenshe’savailablle..Ithurtstobetreatedlikethis.IguessI’msteppingbackandreallyseeinghowco-dependentIwastoletitgettothispoint.Shouldvecutitoffmonthsago,butalwaystakeherback.It’swildhowsomepplcanboldfaceLIEtoyoutoyourface,tellyouYOURthecrazyone,andletyousufferinpainwhiletheyrideoffsomeemotionalhighthey’regettingfromwhoeverelsetheirhangingwith.NomorewillIplaythegame. Reply I’mold.Beenthroughmanyrelationships.Thereareabusers.Lotsofthem. Butmostpeoplearejustunaware,andmanyproblemsinarelationshipcanbesolvedbyacknowledgingthatthepersoninthemirrorismakingdramabecausetheyfeelafraid,lost,inauthentic,angry,whatever. Ifyouafraid,callforhelptoleave.Ifyouarenotafraid,lookforthetoxicinthemirrorfirstbeforepointingitout,orghostingit,insomeoneelse. You’llbealothappierwhenyou’reoldifyoucleanupyourenergybeforeblamingothers. Reply Iaminarelationshipwithamanwhojustseemstowanttokeepmeoutsidethedoorofhislife.Hewilltellmethingslike,havingabadday,hadabaddream,wellthissucks,thisguysgonnapissmeoff,etc,butwhenIaskformoredetails,hesaysthingslike,ohit’snothing,OrIwilltellyoulater,(andneverdoes)orit’swasjuststupid,Ifeelbaitedsometimes.Hewon’tshowhistruefeelings,andkeepshislifeveryprivate,Butsayshelovesmewholeheartedly.Ifthisistrue,thenwhydoeshenotletmeintohislife100%?ButIlovethisman,butdon’tknowhowmuchmoreIcantake Reply ←PreviousComments LeaveaReplyCancelreplyYouremailaddresswillnotbepublished.Requiredfieldsaremarked*CommentName* Email* Website Notifymeoffollow-upcommentsbyemail.Notifymeofnewpostsbyemail. 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